“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety” – Proverbs 11:14
This weekend, B and I had dinner with three different couples who have all experienced infertility and adoption. There is an immediate, “I get you and you get me” when we interact with these couples. There is an understanding of the grief associated with infertility, an awareness of the decisions we are currently wrestling with, and a commitment to pray with us for our children, their birthmothers, and potential caretakers. Last night, B and I kept saying, “God’s people–these people–are so good. God, you are so good for connecting us.”
Here are some random thoughts from the Moores as we process:
- In each of their stories, we saw the active role God played. He moved mountains. We left each conversation more convinced, “God loves His children and He will take care of them.” He will take care of the children he selects for us. He will take care of us.
- B and I are whole with or without children. However, we believe there is a child out there that God has selected for us to care for. We feel like this weekend was an important step in the journey to find our child.
- It was so good to see couples on the other side of this journey with kids in their arms. They started their journey at the same place we have: an infertility diagnosis.
- The journey we are embarking on will be full of challenges–most of all for our children.
- This is a journey that requires us to walk by faith and not by sight.
- Their stories are beautiful testimonies of God’s active role in the life of his children. It’s about Him.
- There is such a deep appreciation for the gift of parenthood, and each of them are wonderful stewards of this role. They longed for the 2AM feedings for so long.
- Many people have said they would pray for us, these couples actually did. Each couple took significant time to pray over us.
- All of us have an awareness that none of this is in our control.
So, how can you pray for us?
- Over the next couple of weeks, we will be meeting with adoption agencies. Please pray that it would be clear to us which agency we should work with.
- B and I don’t know if we should adopt domestically or internationally. There are pros and cons of each. There are risks with each. Pray that we know the difference of when we are just being fearful or experiencing a lack of peace because it is not the path we should pursue.
- Pray for our children, their birthmothers, and their caretakers. Pray for protection. Pray that the kids will be treated with kindness. That they will be loved. Our child could be grieving right now.
- Pray for us as we continue to process through the grief associated with infertility. Tonight, I had to pass the maternity section at Target on my way to the dressing room. Yesterday, a friend had a baby shower that I could not bring myself to attend. It was too soon. I didn’t cry, but there is a natural longing. It is a reminder that there aren’t supposed to be orphans, infertility diagnoses, abortions, miscarriages, teen pregnancies, crappy parents, etc. But there are. We are grateful that we love a God who is actively working in the brokenness of all of us.
Thank you for your prayers and notes of encouragement. We covet your prayers.
B and M