How “far along” are we in the adoption process? 36 weeks
Best news of the week: Our dossier was officially sent to Ch!n@ on Friday!!!!! This is a huge step and represents 36 weeks of background checks and paperwork. Both B and I cried when our sweet Social Worker told us the news. Without any hesitation, we both said, “We are coming for our baby!” Although honestly…we could still be waiting this time next year (maybe not) and we don’t have a referral yet.
Worst news of the week: The database system is still not working properly and will likely affect our timeline in a significant way. The C3WA seems to be doing the absolute best they can with a very unfortunate situation. Please pray with us that the bugs in the system will be worked out.
What are we waiting on: The next step is getting LID (log in date). When we get the log in date, it means that Ch!n@ has logged our dossier into their system. Currently, there are very significant slowdowns for this step. Please join us in praying that we are LID soon. Our best guess, which really is just a guess, would be about 4-5 weeks from now. Nothing is predictable right now given the slowdowns.
What are we working on (adoption related): We are currently applying for a grant. We’d appreciate your prayers for provision.
What are we reading: Right now, I am reading books to prep for the fall semester. However, today I read an excellent NY Times article written by an adult adoptee. I try to read everything I can that was written by adult adoptees so that I can learn from their experiences. http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/07/21/explaining-my-adoption-to-my-biological-daughter/
What Ch!nese words are we trying to learn: I spent several hours this week practicing counting to twenty and discerning which tones are being used. I have some great apps on my iPad that turn it into fun games. I made a lot of progress this week, but if you came up to me and said, “Say seven in Mandarin!,” I’d look at you like a deer in the headlights. One of my former students who studied abroad in Ch!n@ told me to bob my head based on the tones used and this helps tremendously. As I traveled this week, I noticed a lot of funny expressions – people were trying to figure out my head bobs. Right now, my favorite iPad app is http://www.mindsnacks.com/subjects/mandarin. If you have small kids, and want them to learn vocabulary in another language, it makes it really fun. We are currently saving our money to buy more sophisticated software, but for now the apps work! This is the software we will eventually buy http://www.amazon.com/Learn-Mandarin-Fluenz-supplemental-Podcasts/dp/B00310UXQW/ref=sr_1_6?s=software&ie=UTF8&qid=1374440152&sr=1-6
The funny thing is, the iPad app indicates that I have mastered numbers. Hahahaha! So now, I am learning how to say different body parts in Mandarin…and numbers.
Fun things we did this week: One of the things I have noticed through this process is that B and I have to be more intentional about spending quality time together. Adoption is expensive and the paperwork takes a lot of time. Because of the expense, we have cut way back on our discretionary spending, and that means for several months we did not go on dates. I often see that every dime I spend on other “stuff” is , money that could go to our adoption, someone else’s adoption, or to charities that we support that take care of orphans. Since we have learned so much about orphan care, it has really changed us and how we view the money God has entrusted us with.
But, adoption is also stressful.
Recently, I told B that we needed to make sure that we are spending time together making memories and having fun while we wait. So this weekend, and for our 11th wedding anniversary, we stayed at 21c, a local museum hotel. I love modern art. Staying at this hotel felt like staying at the MoMA in London, even though we are in Arkansas. It was nice.
This week, B and I are going on vacation (paid for by frequent flier miles) to Estes Park, Vail, and to see friends and family in Boulder. I am so grateful for a trip away with B that is not work-related.
How we were encouraged this week: B said he was encouraged this week by finding a photo of me from when I was 18.
Some background – when we had our homestudy interview, one of the questions our home study social worker asked B was, “Will M be a good mother?” B got a tad bit emotional when he told our SW at length all of the reasons why he knows I’ll be such a good mom. The entire time he talked, our SW grinned from ear to ear. At random moments, B will stop me and say, “Seriously, you are going to be the best mother.” I always say, “Oh yeah? How do you know?”
B has never mentioned it to me, but he said he always knew I would be a good mom when he saw a particular photo of me when I was 18. In the photo, I am snuggling my nephew. B has not seen this photo in over 10 years, but had vivid memories of it. He dug and dug and searched and searched and found it.
For our anniversary, he gave me random cards that one-by-one that listed 11 things he loves about me. The last one said, “You’ll be such a good mom. How do I know? Take a look at this picture.”
I can’t believe my little nephew is now a tall young man who will be in high school this August.